How I Killed The Tom Boy In Me, A True Confession, By Bolanle Ajiboye | News Proof



How I Killed The Tom Boy In Me, A True Confession, By Bolanle Ajiboye

Bolanle Olagbemi-Ajiboye
I was typically a TOM BOY, while growing up even till my university days (for those who knew me then, and called me funny funny names oya give yourselves three Gbosas...i say this in my "Accolades" voice). What many people did not understand about me then was the motive behind my body carriage, it was not an intentional move, i never premediated to behave like a TOM BOY, but I did! I was influenced by the guys gang i grew up with in my house when at a point in time, i was the only girl among five boys, now men, i was influenced to learn the ways of the "MEN", I loved to share my immediate elder brother's trousers with him then even without his permission ( Christopher Olatunji is confession time o) he was a great influence on me, i learnt how to play ball, table tennis, even Draft game, and other masculine acts of doing back fleet, climbing trees, summersault and i even modeled after them in the way i walked, i practically bounced with my shoulders high and my hands in my pockets at times, like a real dude. 

I know you would not believe it is still the same Bolanle today, a well cultured wife and mother with a customized lady-like steppings, cute, and savvy feminine carriage. Well the Truth is i re-learnt how to do things DIFFERENTLY, I had a brain re-set to be a unique person, i changed my ways, i had a rethink and i moved away from the norms of being a Tom boy though it took PRACTICE and TIME, i was determined to be DIFFERENT and so i got a vivid result that you all can testify to, little wonder, why Kunle Ajiboye (my handsome sweet heart) could not resist my mesmerizing moves and beauty the first day he set his eyes on me

Now to the CRUX of the moment, TO GET DIFFERENT RESULTS, YOU HAVE TO DO SOMETHING DIFFERENTLY. My Focal point here is, discard old ideas, sentiments, or superstitions that gives you the same result over and over again, be open to learn new strategies, ideas, and innovations. Please do away with your historical stories of that is the usual trend, the way my mother, and even my great grand uncles use to do it, therefore i will also follow suit, why not Dare to do it differently, try new ways, be innovative, stop complaining of getting the same results while others are fast ahead of you, they have all embraced the new techniques, find out what they are doing differently and Learn from them, the world is fast becoming globalize, leave your comfort zones and take up new challenges and Risks.

Here's to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently. They are not fond of rules. And they have no respect for the status quo. You can quote them, disagree with them, glorify or vilify them, BUT the only thing you can't do is ignore them, Because they change things. They push the human race forward. And while some may see them as the crazy ones, we see genius, icons, mentors, and great achievers! Because the people who are crazy enough to think they can change the world, are the ones who can actually do.

Note this: When you see so many people crowded at the entrance, think of the roofing and if the roofing is too high, think of the next door and if the next door is not penetrable, create a door within the wall.

I challenge you today... Be the change the world is waiting for, dream big, Dare to walk on waters, do the extraordinary, do things DIFFERENTLY and you will definitely get a different and better Result.

What is it you have been doing and getting same result???
How do you intend to do it differently, now that you know???

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